When there’s distance between you and your significant other, it may seem like any little thing can make your relationship fall apart. But with a little effort, you and your partner can be closer than ever, while they’re still miles away.
If you’re wondering what you can do to keep your partner close, don’t stop at technology. There’s so much more to long-distance relationships than video calling and texting!
To turn your LDR into something to write home about, use some of the suggestions below.
1. Have regular phone calls
This one’s pretty obvious, but the key word here is ‘regular’. Having a daily phone call with your SO is the best way to maintain a strong emotional connection with them.
When phone calls aren’t regularly scheduled, it’s easy for things to come up and get in the way. So, make a phone call schedule and stick with it. No excuses!
2. Keep them updated
One of the worst things about LDRs is being unable to be a part of your partner’s daily activities. That’s why sharing everything with your partner, no matter how small, is so important.
Call your partner to tell them about what’s going on in your life, and send them photos and videos too. That way, they won’t have to feel like they’re missing out.
3. Send snail mail
Receiving a personal letter in the mail is always exciting these days. When you see a real, hand-written letter waiting under that stack of bills and promotional letters, it’s like finding a forgotten present under the Christmas tree.
To keep your LDR exciting and meaningful, try sending your partner some snail mail. Long heart-felt love letters are always best when presented in an envelope. Send notes that are short and sweet, or postcards too.
If you make letter-writing a regular thing, your partner may not have you to look forward to when they get home, but they will have your letter!
4. Send care packages
What’s even more exciting to receive than letters are packages, especially when their contents are a surprise from the one we love.
If you know that your partner needs or wants something, send it to them in a care package. To make the package extra special, put in some small things that you know they’ll like.
(Think candy, games, stuffed animals, books, photos, trinkets, etc.)
5. Have video calls
Video calling is the closest thing to being in the same room as your SO when you’re in a LDR. Schedule video calls every day or two to tell your partner what’s on your mind. Don’t feel tethered to your house though. There’s a whole world out there that you and your partner can explore together -- through a video call.
Go to an amusement park, to a restaurant, or on a walk to keep your video calls interesting.
6. Have video dates
Distance between you and your partner doesn’t have to put an end to date nights. With a good internet connection, you can still have the perfect romantic evening together. Just make sure to stay in sync with whatever activities you do.
Cook the same meal, watch the same movie, or go on a walk at the same time -- all while staying on the call -- to respark the romance in your relationship.
7. Stay in sync!
When you aren’t able to spend time with your SO in person, it can feel like the connection you once had with them is slowly fading away. To fix this, plan activities that you two can do separately, but together.
Choose shows, movies, books, and activities that both you and your partner are interested in, and try to experience them at the same time. It will allow you to create shared experiences, and will give you talking points for future conversations.
8. Send photo dumps
Photo dumps are a fun way to keep your partner updated on what’s going on in your life. Depending on how many photos you take, photo dumps can be sent every day, or can be more of a meaningful, once-in-a-while thing.
9. Make them a playlist
Making a playlist for someone else can be an incredibly personal and romantic gesture. Create a playlist of songs you and your partner have history with, or gather together songs that they don’t know, but that you think they’ll love.
10. Plan a visit
If possible, plan to visit your SO. You can let them know you’re coming, but surprise visits are fun, too! Getting to see your partner in person, even if it’s just for a short time, is the best way to keep your relationship feeling personal and real.
Once the visit is over, leave meaningful notes for your partner in places you know they’ll be found once you’re gone. A hidden love letter in a drawer, a book, or under a pillow will make your partner feel your presence even after you’ve left.
11. Ask for their advice
Your SO wants to be a part of your life, so let them! Even if they’re a million miles away, keep them close by asking for their advice on problems you’re having. Your partner will love knowing that you value their opinion. They’ll be grateful, too, that you’re keeping them involved in your life.
12. Say ‘I love you’ every day
Here’s an easy one. Make sure that you tell your partner you love them every single day! Whether they’re said through text message, a phone call, or a video call, those three words are one of the most important tools for sustaining a healthy, happy relationship.
13. Give them your trust
When your partner is far away from you, it’s very easy for fear and jealousy to run free. But trust is the foundation of a strong relationship. For LDRs to work, you need to let your partner know that you trust that they will stay committed to you, no matter what.
14. Give them your commitment
Just like how you need to trust that your partner will stay true to you, you need to allow your partner to trust your own commitment. If you stop being committed to your partner, there’s no way your relationship can last.
LDRs require plenty of effort from both sides. If you’re willing to put in that effort, no amount of space between you and your partner can get in the way of your relationship. Just remember to stay positive, and be creative!